Relationships

Social relations are the key to happiness (Schwartz)

August 8th, 2008  |  Published in Psychology, Relationships, Life, Quotes

But if money doesn’t do it for people, what does? What seems to be the most important factor in providing happiness is close social relations. People who are married, who have good friends, and who are close to their families are happier than those who are not.

—Barry Schwartz, The Paradox of Choice (2004), p. 107

Some cause happiness wherever they go (Wilde)

June 27th, 2008  |  Published in Relationships, Quotes, Humor and Satire

Some cause happiness wherever they go; others, whenever they go.

—Oscar Wilde

The common pattern of people (Koch)

June 18th, 2008  |  Published in Relationships, Quotes

Apparently, the common pattern of people in any society is to have two important childhood friends, two significant adult friends, and two doctors. Typically, there are two powerful sexual partners who eclipse the others. Most commonly, you only fall in love once, and there is one member of your family whom you love above all others. The number of significant personal relationships is remarkably similar for everyone, regardless of their location, sophistication, or culture…. And once these slots are filled, they’re filled forever.

—Richard Koch, The 80/20 Principle: The Secret of Achieving More With Less (1998), p. 177

Being loved by your fellow-creatures (Bronte)

November 22nd, 2007  |  Published in Relationships, Friendship, Life, Quotes

There is no happiness like that of being loved by your fellow-creatures, and feeling that your presence is an addition to their comfort.

–Charlotte Bronte, Jane Eyre (1847; Reader’s Digest, 1984), p. 220

Reconciliations are the cement of friendship (Edgeworth)

October 9th, 2007  |  Published in Relationships, Friendship, Quotes, Humor and Satire

Reconciliations are the cement of friendship; therefore friends should quarrel to strengthen their attachment, and offend each other for the pleasure of being reconciled.

–Maria Edgeworth (1768–1849), “The Noble Science of Self-Justification” in The Art of the Personal Essay by Phillip Lopate (1994), p. 153

It’s a bit burned (Bryson)

July 18th, 2007  |  Published in Relationships, Food, Quotes, Humor and Satire

We didn’t call it the kitchen in our house. We called it the Burns Unit.

“It’s a bit burned,” my mother would say apologetically at every meal, presenting you with a piece of meat that looked like something – a much-loved pet perhaps – salvaged from a tragic house fire. “But I think I scraped off most of the burned part,” she would add, overlooking that this included every bit of it that had once been flesh.

Happily, this all suited my father. His palate only responded to two tastes – burned and ice cream – so everything suited him so long as it was sufficiently dark and not too startlingly flavorful. Theirs truly was a marriage made in heaven, for no one could burn food like my mother or eat it like my dad.

–Bill Bryson, The Life and Times of the Thunderbolt Kid: A Memoir (2006), p. 15

Commander Blop (Salinger)

May 19th, 2007  |  Published in Relationships, Quotes, Humor and Satire

Then [old Lillian] introduced me to [her date,] the Navy guy. His name was Commander Blop or something. He was one of those guys that think they’re being a pansy if they don’t break around forty of your fingers when they shake hands with you.

–Holden Caulfield in J.D. Salinger’s The Catcher in the Rye (1951), p. 113

Consequences of bipedalism (Bryson)

April 1st, 2007  |  Published in Relationships, Science, Quotes

Bipedalism is a demanding and risky strategy. It means refashioning the pelvis into a full load-bearing instrument. To preserve the required strength, the birth canal in the female must be comparatively narrow. This has two very significant immediate consequences and one longer-term one. First, it means a lot of pain for any birthing mother and a greatly increased danger of fatality to mother and baby both. Moreover, to get the baby’s head through such a tight space it must be born while its brain is still small – and while the baby, therefore, is still helpless. This means long-term infant care, which in turn implies solid male-female bonding.

–Bill Bryson, A Short History of Nearly Everything (2003), 394-5